I can still smell the rubber of the little red bouncy ball that did not like to be controlled. Inevitably someone would serve badly and proclaim, “Do over!” Do overs were never well received by the other people playing. It was like trying to cheat. And if my memory serves me right (quite possibly it does NOT) only certain people got them and I was not one of the lucky ones.
My foursquare days have long since ended, and along with that I have stopped asking for do overs. The belief that if I fail I’m stuck with the consequences, stuck with the reality of that failure, has immobilized me for years.
I had to say goodbye to an important person in my life on Tuesday and unfortunately, I did it badly.
After leaving, all I could think was, “I wish I could have a do over.”
As a result of working on changing my life for some time now, I decided to ask for a do over. And guess what…
The offer of a do over was graciously given to me!
So today I took full advantage of that offer and said goodbye well.
We all need them, because we all fail.
And we are all capable of learning from those failures and doing better the next time.
Go ahead and ask for a do over!
Better yet, extend the offer of a do over to someone who needs it. You just might find their heart overflows with gratefulness at the opportunity.
And so goes grace.